On the Death of the Beloved

This is a special poem from John O’Donohue that gives comfort to my soul.  It is a poem for right now; live today, and love the beloved.

Though we need to weep your loss,
You dwell in that safe place in our hearts,
Where no storm or might or pain can reach you.

We look towards each other no longer
From the old distance of our names;
Now you dwell inside the rhythm of breath,
As close to us as we are to ourselves.

Though we cannot see you with outward eyes,
We know our soul’s gaze is upon your face,
Smiling back at us from within everything
To which we bring our best refinement.

Let us not look for you only in memory,
Where we would grow lonely without you.
You would want us to find you in presence,
Beside us when beauty brightens,
When kindness glows
And music echoes eternal tones.

When orchids brighten the earth,
Darkest winter has turned to spring;
May this dark grief flower with hope
In every heart that loves you.

May you continue to inspire us:

To enter each day with a generous heart.
To serve the call of courage and love
Until we see your beautiful face again
In that land where there is no more separation,
Where all tears will be wiped from our mind,
And where we will never lose you again.

(Extracted from John O’Donohue “On the Death of the Beloved”)

Regina’s life in review

I created a PowerPoint video about a month after Regina’s passing.  Pictures are included from many times during her life.  I hope you enjoy revisiting her life.

She thoroughly enjoyed life.  She had a special love for me, her three daughters, and her family.

PPL Regina

This was created Aug. 7 by Marion.  She met Regina, the lady who works at the front desk at PPL (Project for Pride and Living) and they “connected.”  While Marion was waiting for me to finish a meeting with Rola and Jim, she started working on this drawing for Regina.  I delivered it today.

Marion for Regina

Mother’s day 2013

As Mother’s day approaches, I have special remembrances of Regina. One in particular keeps coming to mind. On Wednesday, September 26th of 2012, Jodanne, Moira, and Aimee showed up at our home in Minnetonka for lunch. They said “Mom, we are going to shampoo the rug this afternoon. You have been telling Dad that you want the rug shampooed before winter. We are going to do it today.” The 4 of them spent their afternoon together. Three most significant women in my life, Mom and 3 daughters. I chose not to stick around for the afternoon so they could enjoy the time together. It was that afternoon that this last picture was taken of Regina with Moira.

Regina and Moira

I don’t know what all happened that afternoon.  I know that the next day she was very grateful for their time together.

It was that evening of the “shampooing” that she had a stroke that led to her being hospitalized.  She passed away just 4 days later, Sunday, September 30, 2012, carrying with her the memory of her last day at home with her loved daughters.

How blessed I am knowing that her last day at home was perfect.  I couldn’t have created it any better.  Regina, I love you, William.

Wonderful World

I created a slide show for Regina’s memorial.  I used Louis Armstrong’s song as inspiration.  Also, Aimee Bryant led the singing of this song during the memorial gathering.

About a week ago I received a Facebook entry from granddaughter Jordan about an English assignment.

“I got a 97 on my last English paper about how What A Wonderful World by Louis Armstrong relates to my life. I love you, Grandma and Grandpa!! :)”

Jordan’s message is the immediate inspiration for me creating this blog entry entry with the slideshow embedded. I love you Jordan.

Regina Schmidt — Wonderful World

I must have done something good

A few nights ago I again watched “The Sound of Music.”  It was another one of our favorites.  This time I was overwhelmed with emotion several times through out the movie.  One song in particular really got to me, “Something Good.”  Regina often said this to me and I mirrored it back to her.  What did I ever do to deserve you?  I must have done something good.
Link to song.
Something Good Lyrics
by Maria and the Captain   from The Sound of Music Soundtrack

[Maria:]
Perhaps I had a wicked childhood
Perhaps I had a miserable youth
But somwhere in my wicked, miserable past
There must have been a moment of truth

For here you are, standing there, loving me
Whether or not you should
So somewhere in my youth or childhood
I must have done something good

Nothing comes from nothing
Nothing ever could
So somewhere in my youth or childhood
I must have done something good

[Captain:]
For here you are, standing there, loving me
Whether or not you should

[Maria:]
So somewhere in my youth or childhood
I must have done something good

[Maria and the Captain:]
Nothing comes from nothing
Nothing ever could

[Maria:]
So somewhere in my youth
[Captain:]
Or childhood
[Maria:]
I must have done something . . .
[Maria and the Captain:]
Something good

Wedding Anniversary 1968

How do you hold a moon beam in your hand?

One of the other songs in The Sound of Music that really speaks to me is “How do you solve a problem like Maria?” Especially, how do you hold a moon beam in your hand??? Always very gently. With Regina I learned to expect the unexpected in a delightful, expanding way. She was able to go beyond the ordinary and make life more than what was originally given. A real blessing and gift.

Here’s one simple example of her own awareness of who she was:  About a year after I met her, she sent me a picture of herself with this inscription on the back.  “from That Naughty Girl, Donnamarie.”  That was when she still used her convent name as her name.

She was not afraid to be “naughty,”  to live out on the edge, ask the challenging questions, push the limits, explore the edges of life.  Life was not a trivial matter for her, yet she lived a delightful life.  She was light-hearted.  Ready to laugh at self and life.  A moon beam.

Thank you, Spirit, for Regina.

Link to song: How do you Solve a Problem Like Maria.

Somewhere My Love

The first movie that Regina and I went to was Dr. Zhivago.  It was in Milwaukee in 1967 when we were just beginning to get to know one another – and love one another.  We have since had Lara’s theme as “our favorite song.” We have danced to it many times. So, it has been going through my head and heart these days. I found a YouTube version with a young woman “dancing,” smiling, enjoying life, much like Regina would and could. Here it is:

Somewhere, My Love,
There will be songs to sing
Although the snow
Covers the hope of spring;
Somewhere a hill
Blossoms in green and gold,
And there are dreams,
All that your heart can hold.
Someday,
We’ll meet again, My Love,
Someday,
Whenever the spring breaks through.
You’ll come to me
Out of the long a-go,
Warm as the wind,
Soft as the kiss of snow;
Til then, My Sweet, think of me now and then;
God speed, My Love, til you are mine again.

Like the end of a beautiful song

Death is like the end of a beautiful song

by Rev. Carrie Lauer on Sunday, June 12, 2011

A person brings into our life a certain sound
like no other sound we have heard before
We are engaged in the melody, tone and rhythm
we are emancipated from the day to day for
one brief moment in time,
Then the song ends and the depth of silence left behind
leaves a longing in our heart, a ringing in our ears
and a wish for one more note.

Rev. Nancy Herrick sent this poem to me about a year ago when my brother died of prostate cancer.  It was poignant then and is infinitely more so today.  O, for just one more note, or a bar, or a stanza.

Regina, My Queen, My Love

A couple years ago I, William, created this blog as a place for Regina to “post” her thoughts, dreams, journey, journal. Somehow that never did manifest from her. Regina was much more about living her life in other ways that blessed all of us. So, with her leaving behind her physical presence with us, I will make an attempt at sharing some of her with you.
This first image is of Regina and me taken by a good, close friend, Kimball Service. The picture captures many qualities of her spirit. This gives you an idea of how I choose to remember Regina.

This second image is a scanned image of a gift from Kate Olson, a craft, creative friend. For a long time this has been my mantra when someone would ask “how’s Regina,” or “what can we do for Regina?” And it is still my mantra. Now I include myself and those of us who are especially close to Regina. Love Regina, and love us.

Love Regina

This third image is Regina’s obituary as it appeared in the Star Tribune here in Minneapolis, today.

You can leave comments here and/or at this link to the Star Tribune online.